Wednesday 13 March 2013

Mother's Day,,


I had the most wonderful mother's day. A lie in til half past nine, the best cuddles in bed with my famalam followed by chocolate, a card reducing me to tears, and a watch I absolutely do not deserve(!) I am the most spoilt. We may of also nipped out for a more breakfasty(think bacon) breakfast after. It was truly perfect. 

I really really love being a mother. Not because of the day of spoiling ;) but my life revolving around my family. I'm anxious about whether I'll get irritable and bored of staying at home when the craziness of the next two month ends. Because right now I cherish every moment spent inside this little house. I have never before felt so strongly for Jamie and Molly as I do right.now. Busy-ness makes the heart swell I guess, or exhaustion induced over-emotion! I hope all the mothers were reminded how amazing they are on Sunday because there is no other job so sacrificing and rewarding all at once. You don't mother for the return of love, or praise, or even because you think you should. You mother because it hurts your soul to imagine your child not feeling love, or care or safety. It's so huge, and so under appreciated. I hate that before I had Molly I had the preconception that mothers, young mothers in particular were lazy, doing it for money, security, whatever. That it was easy, an easy life. And it's so untrue, I can't even fathom a woman birthing a child and not putting them first. Of course there are exceptions, there is to everything. But where did this awful stereotype come from that I didn't even realise was ingrained in me? Motherhood is hard. It takes endurance, patience and determination. It takes intelligence, quick thinking and open-mindedness. Skills not needed in a surprisingly large amount of 'professional' jobs. Parenthood is something to be valued and encouraged by society, not shunned unless done conventionally. Conventions and confinements of society only lead to disillusion, disappointment and in turn the hate that stereotypes perpetuate. It's argued so much in the media that mother's should 'get a job' and not live off the state, but I am proud to live in a Welfare state. That's why we pay taxes. I do work, and I do put Molly in childcare three days a week with someone I trust completely so that I can work and get my degree. But if for the first four years of my child's life I was unable to afford childcare to work, I like knowing that I would be able to scrape by for those years nurturing my child until I could work while they are at school and pay back what I had used. So hurray to all mothers, in whatever form you come in. Hurray to you. And hurray to those who decide motherhood isn't for them, because it's not everything. But it is everything to me.

5 comments:

  1. This is so sweet, your child is so luckyxx

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  2. You are an amazing person, I am so proud of you my beautiful daughter x x x

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  3. So glad I found your lovely blog! I can't tell you how much I agree with everything you wrote. I actually wrote a post recently saying how motherhood is not what I expected but fulfills me in so many more ways.

    http://samandasha2.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/as-many-loves-as-hearts.html

    'You don't mother for the return of love, or praise, or even because you think you should. You mother because it hurts your soul to imagine your child not feeling love, or care or safety. It's so huge, and so under appreciated.'

    I honestly think this is the most beautiful and truest description of motherhood I've seen written. Ever.

    So excited to follow you and read more. Hope you had the most wonderful Mother's Day!

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    1. Thank you- that's so kind of you :) It really means a lot.
      She's my constant inspiration.

      xx

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